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16th March 2010

meadsy073:43pm: Hi, I'm posting this here because I don't really think I can tell anyone close to me and I have no idea what to do. Yesterday I was on my dad's laptop, which is normal our whole family kinda uses it. But he had just come home from work with it and when I opened it he had left up his email. There were these emails between him and some lady, a name I've never heard. But they were telling each other they love each other and she was asking him if he'll be moving out soon and how it's driving them insane that they have such limited conversation etc. It was sickening. My father's been "happily" married to my mother for almost 25 years. I'm one of five children. We're all devout Catholics. I've always respected my dad more than anyone else I know. He's a doctor so he works alot and isn't home often but he's never been a bad father in any way. He and my mother fight sometimes like any couple does but they still always appear happy and in love. I can't believe it and I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do with his information it doesn't seem real. I literally sat in school all day not even knowing if i dreamt this or if i really read all of it. I'm close with my siblings but I don't want to tell them because I can't stand the burden of knowing this and I don't want them to have to deal with it either, or think of our Dad the way I now do. I'm just so confused. Am I supposed to try and forget about this and carry this weight around for the rest of my life? I haven't told my close friends or my boyfriend because I'm kind of ashamed.. Divorce is never even a question in my family..I can't even imagine my father would even THINK of leaving us. My youngest brother's only 10. I'm just shocked and hurt and disappointed and confused and I have no idea what to do? Help? In any way? Please?

25th February 2010

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4th January 2010

thin_blaire5:10pm: I need help!!
My boyfriend got fired and since his co-worker got fired for the same exact thing and got unemployment, my bf thought he would receive the same.  Fired for indirectly blogging about the company on Facebook, who knew?  Well, he didn't get unemployment :(

He hasn't been able to provide money since November 8th, 2009.  Since September we have been planning to move to a more affordable state.  We priced everything out and started putting the money away. We have a few friends who live out there and we received a move-in special to our top choice apartment for $99, with a monthly rent of only $650.  Right now we are paying $1,280/month and CA has one of the highest unemployment rates.  My boyfriend and I want to be able to own a house rather than rent a condo/apt, we want to have kids, we want to surround ourselves with nicer people who aren't so concerned about vanity.  CA has become so impractical.

My boyfriend feels incredibly emasculated and I know that he will provide in the near future.  He is such a great intelligent person.  My mom has her doubts about our decision and of course doesn't want to see her only child move away.  I feel like she's turning the family against me too.  I'm dealing with such stress and I'm not sure what our best course of action is at this moment.  

I was thinking about putting in my 30 days very soon at the $1,280/month apt, not at work.  I would still be here in CA for my work bonus (around $1,000) until my bf is securely in a job in the new state; I would be staying with my mom and commuting 30 minutes to work.  He would be driving a U-haul with my car attached (he's covered by my insurance), the drive is approximately 20 hours, apt would be ready on February 2nd.  Downside is that I would have to rent a car in the meantime, perhaps up to a month.  When you think about it though, renting a car doesn't sound as bad as having to drive my car there by myself for 20 hours or having to keep everything in storage until the time is right.  Any further suggestions?

16th February 2009

lang_ea1:40am: I seem to be the only clueless one here
Well, I've just went through 2 completely disastrous relationships.
One was with a best friend in high school who I knew for 3 years. In a school where we even had classes in saturday, so we hung out almost every single day. But when he tried to push it into something more, I realised afterwards he was just trying to use me as a lay. He didn't pop the cherry but did cast me aside after 2 days of being more than friends.
My second one lasted a little bit longer, 5 months, until his oedipus complex happen to surface and decide he was in love with someone else who's a younger version of his mom. He was my first time and it was my first proper relationship while it lasted. He had looked after me and even helped me cope with being in uni the first time. But I wasn't good enough in turn I guess.

So, after so many futile attempts, I just want to ask, how does a girl even do it? How does she so easily attract so many guys and get into a proper faithful relationship. I've seen it happen amongst family members and even my room mate...my older sister actually went into a one night stand with a guy and still managed to have him wrapped around her little finger in a marriage for 5 years now. She hardly even seems to break a sweat.
But me; ol' halo-playing, comic-book collecting responsible me couldn't even have a guy to stay. I know this one guy I'm relentlessly trying to get him to like me for 2 months now and he finds me as sexy and much of a girlfriend material as a lump in the ground. I have 3 different soaps to keep my skin looking okay and look like a girl next door that's gone a little heavy metal, I wear hiking boots and don't treat the guys like hiltons' chihuahas, I even have hair down the mid of my back to remind people of my gender. Yet somehow, I am never seen as a girl or a guy but just 'me'. But most people only approach me because I look 'innocent' and 'refreshing'. But that's about it.
I haven't even tried to hop on another guy. I try to talk to them, I've never worn a skirt for 6 months and smile a lot, hell I don't even wear make up, but it's not good anough. I feel like I can spend a lifetime trying to understand them when so many girls before me snap up long-term boyfriends within an hour. I tried to ask them but they always looked confused as if they've never actually thought about it before, so hence why I'm asking this. How does a girl do it? What does she actually DO to actually have a guy fall hopelessly in love with them and let them do whatever they want with them without a complaint. My last ex was a jedi geek for god's sakes and he still leaves me for another after being his first girlfriend who doesn't give him the cold shoulder for taking me to a comic book store. I feel like the only one in the world who can't do it and it's starting to get to me. Any ideas anyone?

15th February 2009

accentsarehot2:57pm: I wanna believe him...
I have a very serious problem....

Richard = my boyfriend
Tiffany = his ex, who he was with on & off for 5-6 yrs

I've never been in a situation like this before, EVER. Because this is my first serious relationship. I just need some advice. Please. Someone help me.

Tiffany text richard this morning, telling him that she's not mad at him at all. He says he hasn't talked to her, that he doesn't know how she got his number. But I dunno what to believe...

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This is probably the worst feeling in the entire world. Having no idea whether the man you love, the man who is the father of your child, the man you plan on marrying... is telling the truth.

I really hate having to trust that what he's saying is the truth with no way to prove it either way. I just. Want. To know. The goddamn. Fucking. TRUTH!

x-posted: advice_chic, boys_and_girls, datinandrelatin, girladvice, love_sucks, loveadvice, vent

2nd October 2008

ariawannbe6:49pm: many emotions...venting
I met this guy 3 years ago but we began dating around the 4th of July. We started out be really really good friends. I believe we sometimes see someone and want there to be a connection so badly that we sort of make it happen but tell ourselves it was natural. This guy (we'll call him Tom)is a bit older than me and wasn't my ideal kind of guy at first but he became my total buddy. Our relationship was based on trust and respect and on a smaller level still is. Though at the begining I did notice that he only had one friend (besides me)that consisted of 95% of his social life and it had probably been that way for a while. In the back of my mind I kept wondering if the way he at times seemed to be...I guess obsessed it to strong of a word but I would wonder if I was mostly a ticket out of his loneliness but how could I find that out for sure? Anyways about 2 months later he became more comfortable in letting his temper tantrums/way to gain control show. When he would do something I disagreed with and I would say it would try to always get really mad at any tiny thing I disagreed with and try to intimidate me into biting my tongue when I felt he wasn't treating me right or I disagreed. He does this every time we are together. Sometimes he'll drag it out but it seems when he has something to gain than he cuts it short.Though he shows that he has a lot of love for me. I know your probably thinking yeah you just want to believe that but I could tell that he wasn't faking how strongly he felt towards me by the people closest to him. If he really cherishes me why the tantrums that pulls us apart? How can someone do both to someone? Is it b/c he knows I'll keep coming back? Which I think is a strong possibility but if that is the case I still don't get it. I was curious what other people thought about the situation.

21st May 2008

howtodateababe1:40pm: How To Date A Babe

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23rd April 2008

accentsarehot10:35pm: Lack of sex drive?
So I have this issue and it didn't matter for the longest time but now it's driving me absolutely insane! Cut for possible lengthCollapse )

15th November 2007

accentsarehot1:50pm: Single & Hating It
My boyfriend got back together with his ex. But he didn't even plan on telling me yet because he didn't know how. I found out from his best friend. Chris (my ex's best friend) was nice about it and said he hated to bring bad news, but he thought I deserved to know. I think Richard (the ex) should have told me himself, but I think Chris was in the right. He knew what was going on, he knew Richard probably wasn't going to tell me, he felt I deserved to know, and he told me. It's definitely better than I found out now rather than later because that could have really been a disaster.

I don't understand what's so hard about telling the truth, rather than just what you think a person wants to hear. Why can't people just be honest and straight up to begin with so there isn't stupid petty drama later?

And I'm one of those people who really hates being single. I just always feel better/happier when I'm with someone. So being single is like....one of the worst things ever.

I'm kinda starting to wonder if it's possible to keep a relationship going. None of mine have really made it past 2 months.

crossed posted: love_sucks, advice_chic, boys_and_girls, loveadvice, sex_column, datinandrelatin

12th November 2007

gs_y_me3:26pm: First, I’d like to say Hi, I’m new to this community and basically come asking you for advice...

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30th May 2007

apep_within4:09pm: an intro of sorts...

From childhood's hour I have not been
As others were; I have not seen
As others saw; I could not bring
My passions from a common spring.
From the same source I have not taken
My sorrow; I could not awaken
My heart to joy at the same tone;
And all I loved, I loved alone.
Then- in my childhood, in the dawn
Of a most stormy life- was drawn
From every depth of good and ill
The mystery which binds me still:
From the torrent, or the fountain,
From the red cliff of the mountain,
From the sun that round me rolled
In its autumn tint of gold,
From the lightning in the sky
As it passed me flying by,
From the thunder and the storm,
And the cloud that took the form
(When the rest of Heaven was blue)
Of a demon in my view.

24th February 2007

macapbfan5:24pm: friend help!
this might sound very stupid, but i consider myself emo and i want to be friends with the emo/punk group of people at school. i'm a very shy person, so i don't really know how to become a friend to someone, especially cause i've been friends with the same people for years. they're not scary or mean, i just don't know how to start hanging out with them.

if you have any suggestions, please comment!
Current Mood: ADD

28th January 2007

abc_dating9:08pm: Jesse James
Ok, so I made up that name; but as you know, the initials are the same and I just couldn't give him one first name when he had two (first and middle) and I just loved his name.
You know when you're just drawn to a person just by their name? Well I do. Didn't want to call him JJ like everyone else, I had to call him his whole first two names.

So we meet up for dinner on Wednesday. We first spoke on Tuesday and the only day I had available was Wednesday and he was going on a trip that coming weekend for two weeks.
Very casual. Had a pretty good time at dinner and had a few drinks.
Now, I like to think and I pretty much know what a person is like within the first impression. I got a pretty good vibe. I don't really wanna go into detail why but his background with his family told me that this was a good guy. Our conversations that night went from some serious stuff, to past things, to extremely funny topics. At the end of the night, duh I got a kiss. =)
It was really cute. He walked me to my car and I was telling him about the holiday party I was going to have at my place and my friend is bringing mistletoe but it was going to be all girls. He said,"Well here's a kiss from a boy." Cute right?

Thursday night is my happy hour night. My friends and I are out at local bars drinking. On a whim I text messaged Jesse James even though I knew that he was out bowling or something. I said, "So are you going to bowl all night or come over here?". He called me within 5 minutes and asked if I was serious. He had been drinking at his company holiday party and also when he went bowling. He was about 40 minutes away. He said, "If I come there, I'm not driving back. It's too far and I'm sort of drunk". I didn't know what else to say since I was sort of being cornered, but what the hell, I was almost drunk and I didn't really think about what would happen later.
He showed up within an hour and met all of my friends. We drank some more and just totally acted like a couple. He was all for PDA (public displays of affection) and I didn't really know if I liked that since we had just met yesterday. But I thought it was really cute because he said, "Well, all the guys at this bar now knows that I'm here with you so they can't make any moves on you". haha. I guess it was a bit posessive, but I thought it was cute. So all night we're making out at the bar, outside, in the car, etc.
We drive to my apartment and well, more fun stuff happens. Use your imagination. haha
We both have work in the morning, so he leaves and says, "Well you definately gave me something to think about while I'm away for two weeks."

For the next two weeks, which included Christmas and New Years, we had been text messaging each other and calling. I couldn't wait until he got back.
Finally, he came back and we were talking about maybe getting together at the end of the week. He goes to school and passes by my town's exit on the way and back, so he was going to come over the night before and then go to class.
The night before he came over, I had text messaged and asked when he was coming over. I got nothing. I got nothing the next day, so I made other plans. I really did not have time to be playing whatever he was doing so my friends and I went out to dinner and then for drinks. After all, it was Friday and we always go out on Fridays.
Later that night, I finally get a text message saying that he had been at work until that time, there's no signals where he works, and that we would talk later. I got home later that night and saw that he had also left me messages on my instant messenger.
He said that work was really rough this week and something happened with fixing up his house. I decided to forgive him and invited him over after class the next day since he would be passing by my town anyways. I get a message way later saying that he had already gone home by the time he got my message and that he had promised his friend that they would watch football together.
At this point, after being turned down twice, I decided I was just going to wait for him to initiate anything.
A week later, I got weak and called and text messaged him to see what he was doing in my drunk state. I pretty much got no response. All I could do was wonder what had happened.

Another week later, he instant messages me and says, "I really wanted to tell you before, but you had been out and your away messages sounded sad and I didn't know if it was about me or what so I didn't email you. I decided to get back together with my ex and try to work things out and I didn't want to keep leading you on. I hope we can stay friends. If you don't want to, I understand. I'm sorry I didn't want to hurt you. I know this happened to you before so I didn't know how to tell you."

Well damn. How else would you let me know then? Gotta let me know asap dumbass. And no the away messages were not about you. So I said, "Don't be ridiculous. Thanks for telling me. Good luck."
I guess he felt guilty because then he said, "I'm a good person and I just wanted to do the right thing."
I'm telling you, if one more guy I'm "dating" goes back to his ex, I'm gonna become a nun. haha.
Current Mood: annoyed

26th January 2007

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Current Mood: cold

22nd January 2007

abc_dating10:39pm: Brendon
I totally forgot where I left off last time, so non of them are in order and I can only report what I can remember...

So I thought this one was going pretty well:
- we dated for a few weeks
- saw each other about 2 times a week
- spent a weekend together (supposed to be one night, turned into 3)
- met his friends and roommates
- made dinner for each other
Ya know, regular couple stuff. I was actually excited to enter the next phase aside from one nights and very very short relationships. One weekend, he went to visit some family and I got the strangest feeling... Came back and worked something out so I could go to his place and stay overnight since I didn't have work until noon the next day. Since I hadn't seen him for about a week, I was really excited and went there asap after work. Got there a little early so I killed some time by shopping for a bit and then met him for dinner.
On my way down, I swear to you, I had this weird scenario in my head and he told me that we couldn't see each other anymore. I shook it off because hello that was crazy. Everything was going so well.
So after dinner, he says, "I have to have a difficult conversation with you now". I said, "No we don't... I don't want to..."
It turns out over the weekend, his ex had texted him and wanted to get back together. This is the ex who was extremely jealous and manipulative according to him and absolutely did not like that about her. She was a super drama queen and had accused him of sleeping with every girl he looks at.
He said I wasn't jealous enough. What?!? Because of that, he didn't really feel wanted like he did with his ex. WTF?? Well it's a damn good thing that it only lasted 4 weeks. Took me exactly 4 days to get over him.
Current Mood: crushed

19th January 2007

imposter2d7:06pm: this happen becuz i so happen to have a live journal and she got mad at me cuz i assume one of tlive journal entries were hers. now shes mad cuz she did write it cuz we have spoke about it 2 days ago so i remember what she told thats why i assume it was hers and i wasnt even angry that i did find it , but shes mad cuz i found her and on top of that she lied to me about it . this is great what to do and she just brings all this hate and says im a asshole..when she lies to me. and im being a jerk just becuz i asked if it was her   should i be mad cuz shes keeping it from me i dont think its serious but she doesnt think so. 
i dont know 

well i been with her for awhile and i think its kiddish too thats why but now i feel like she was hiding something from me because she didnt want me to know. so its a very lil agruement but she makes it into a huge problem like it was my fault to stumble over a topic in one of the communities im in that just so happens to be hers...it nonsense she acts like a 5yr old most of the time and shes so one sided about everything

17th January 2007

thatashleygirl75:04pm: **New
I'm new here so I might as well intro myself.
I'm Ashley. I'm 17. I have my good days, and I have my bad days. I sort of get easily pissed off...especially if you catch me on one of my bad days. Sometimes I think I'm bipolar, but my parents tell me theres nothing wrong with me. I hope their right...
I have a man that I basically love... we've pretty much known eachother all our lives, but we didn't see eachother for a longggg time. When we finally saw eachother we were completely blown away, and now we talk. We like eachother...we've both admitted to it, but the only thing thats wrong with that is the MAJORRR age difference...well ok...not so MAJORRR...just 9 years... and he doesn't even look that old. He's the greatest guy I've met, and I want him more than anything. Too bad the age thing is keeping us apart...I'm only 17...We can't be together...It makes me want to die...but he DOES care...so thats a good thing.
Current Mood: okay

25th December 2006

fallingmoonstar12:07am: Patheic ain't it?
I find myself patheic that the only time I ever felt really happy is being with my sister. Even though, she would always try to start a fight with me. Verbally or physically and sometimes both. She would always ditch me to be with her so-called "friends". Even when she said terriable things to me ("You're so stupid, you got yourself rape." I still remembered that..) yet I could never stand being alone without her. I hated being alone. I hated it. I know I have my mother, my grandmother, and my brothers. But I love my sister very dearly. Couple months ago, she was in rehab. I thought within those couple of months, she'll change. But when she came back yesterday, she didn't. She was the same. No matter if my sister is here or not, I'll still be lonely. I know I should try to focus on my life without her, but I just can't.

19th December 2006

sallylouise10:06pm: =[
Yeah so I have a problem.
I hate my life. I'm at the point now where I just don't really wanna be here anymore. My Dad beats me up. It's horrible. I've more or less grown up with one of the people I need most being one of the people I'm most scared of.
and it's all my fault. I could be a better person and it wouldn't happen.
Theres this guy I like. I spent ages thinking he wasnt gonna like me. Only now I'm in a relationship with him and I'm scared I'm gonna hurt him. I mean I don't think I could talk it. I've allready ruined my family. If I hurt anyone else I really think it would kill me. I have no idea what to do.

I just wish it would end.

Current Mood: sad

10th December 2006

crazybrown2:17am: The one that might get away
I fell in love with an amazing girl 3 years ago; the only problem was she had a boyfriend at the time. I figured it was best to just keep my distance and not try to end her relationship with her high school sweetheart and the guy who had given her a pre-engagement ring. Over the years we spent a lot of time together since we were friends with the same group of people. As the years went by we became really great friends and its one of the few times I enjoyed being labeled just friends.
A few months ago her boyfriend broke things off. Like any good friend I stayed by her side and helped her through the rough patch. I really want to ask her out now, but the problem is that I don't want to be the rebound guy and not only lose out on being her boyfriend but also her friend.
She is actually going to be moving out of the country for six months to study in China starting after New Years and when she returns I'll be just moving out of state to start my dream job. Do I give up all I worked for to try and make something out of a possible relationship or do I put down the torch and move on to find another dream girl?
Two dreams that can't coincide. I loved the choose your own adventure books as a kid, but its much harder in real life.

6th December 2006

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4th December 2006

smoochybaby55:39pm: Love troubles</3
i have a love situation that i need help with</3 okay, so there is this boy that my best friend i think fell in love with but i really really like him too and he told me that he loves me back too but he also tells my friend that he loves her. He tells me and her different things and its just so confusing. i know he really likes me because he said he has never cried in a really long time but when i told him that we shouldn't even try with a relationship because of my friend, his eyes started to water and he could barely speak. I know he will just end up hurting one of us really really badly in the end though if i go on with this because there is a good chance he could choose either one of us. But there is also a boy who i can have like the best time with and he likes me too and we are going to Winter Formal together. I'm not quite sure what to do. If i could explain the whole story, i know none of you would want to take the time to read it. So please comment your inputs... i would really like to hear what other people think since i can't talk to my friends about it. Sincerely, Jenny<3 "i never said that it would be easy just that it would be worth it."

19th November 2006

chirley11:53pm: Question of the day...
A little analogy to share from Grey's...

"Simply put...with a typical breakfast for example, you get your ham and eggs.  The chicken for where the eggs came from, is simply just "involved" in the process (of providing you breakfast).   All it had to do was lay the eggs, so you get the eggs. The pig, however, is a different case.  It is totally committed.  For you to get that breakfast, a pig has to give up a part of himself so that you get your hams.  Now, translate that into relationships --- which are you? The Chicken or the Pig? Do you provide the eggs or the ham? Are you involved-involved or committed-involved?"

So, are you the ham or the eggs?

Current Mood: pensive

11th October 2006

abc_dating10:04pm: Jeremy
This is how I know the dating pool is getting smaller and smaller...
So I was talking to this guy online, then we talk on the phone and make a date for next Tuesday. (I'm talking from the past of course)

Friday before Tuesday: My friend and I go to this local bar after work and get some beer. We meet a guy that she's friends with and he insists that we hang out on Sunday. (I just told him I just broke up with someone last week) He says it's a friendly cheer-me-up-date.

Sunday: He picks me up and we go to this bar/gaming place. I already know what's on his agenda and that he wants to be more than friends but we go anyway. Sitting at the bar I bring up the fact that we can only be friends. He agrees. I don't believe him. Whatever. We have a good time and I go home.

Monday: Jeremy IM's me and asks me what I did over the weekend. I tell him and he says, "I knew it. I saw you there." I say, "Well thanks for saying hi". (I'm thinking, damn what a small world) He says, "You were with this guy...". I tell him we're only friends but I get a weird vibe from him (if that's even possible through IM...) So I text him and ask him if we're still on for tomorrow. No answer.

Tuesday: I call Jeremy and as I expected, he doesn't answer. I leave a message saying if you don't call me back I'm assuming that we're not meeting up tonight so I won't be there. (I didn't wanna go there, wait for him, and get stood up!)

So be careful ladies, you never know who is watching...
Current Mood: indifferent
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